Reflect, Honor, Connect
Reflect, Honor, Connect is a powerful strategy that can be used by all team members to help de-escalate difficult situations. Watch the video, reinforce the concept by engaging with activities, and access the accompanying document as a reminder.
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Understand how the Reflect, Honor, Connect strategy impacts the brain’s response to emotional situations. Learn how to develop and use the strategy for youth in the ICF, school, and community environments.
Video: Reflect, Honor, Connect
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Activities
REFLECT: What you heard that they are trying to tell you OR how hard they are working to accomplish something.
HONOR: Their ability and courage to let you know OR their perseverance to keep working.
CONNECT: What you can do together to keep going OR what has kept them going in the past when things are difficult.
Explore scenarios where a youth has become dysregulated and how the Reflect, Honor, Connect strategy can be used to support. Click to reveal Reflect, Honor, Connect strategies.
Reflect: I can tell you are having a big feeling, and it is very upsetting.
Honor: Thank you for letting me be here with you.
Connect: How can I help you?
Reflect: Your face and body tells me that something is just not right.
Honor: Thank you for showing me that in a safe way.
Connect: I will stay with you.
Reflect: You must have been really angry at John to be so upset with him.
Honor: It must be very hard not to have a safe way to show your anger.
Connect: Can I help you find safe ways to express those difficult emotions?
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Steps to Reflect, Honor, Connect
Use this one-page document as a reminder of how to engage in the Reflect, Honor, Connect strategy.
Download Steps to Reflect, Honor, Connect